It’s only been a month since the retreat, and I am truly missing it, especially all the wonderful Daring Darlings. I felt a connection with each of my guests and am looking forward to staying in touch and supporting each other going forward ‘cause there’s no doubt in my mind that we are better together today than we were when we first met as individuals a month ago. We dared and we detoured. We experienced mindfulness and ritual. We witnessed the beauty in each other, with and without lipstick! We burned our limiting beliefs and reframed them as affirmations. Most importantly, we laughed and were joyful and shared our unique gifts in one of the most beautiful places on earth. All the Daring Darlings from each Dare to Detour retreat and workshop are invited to join a private Facebook Group where I sincerely hope we’re able to stay connected. Authentic connection is one of the many perks of being a Daring Darling - once a Darling, always a Darling;)
Each day ended around the campfire where we shared our stories and perspectives. Sharing our perspectives deepened our connections. Doing so while sitting under the Milky Way with the heat of the fire on our faces shifted our collective perspective - felt like magic to me!
We had the good fortune of welcoming a couple local thought leaders around the fire, adding their perspectives to the mix and learning how their personal detours shaped both their lives.
Lorca Smetana was one of our special guests. A professor at Montana State University and a recent TEDx speaker, Lorca works with individuals and companies on ways to become more resilient. Her work began at age 16 when she survived the Mt. Hood climbing tragedy that took the lives of nine students and teachers in her high school. She told us her incredible story and what she’s learned about coming back stronger and richer inside after living through crisis. Lorca collects definitions of resilience - here are a few that she shared with us:
All that equips you to face any crisis, trauma or change with serenity and strength
The ability to build a better boat when you are already at sea
A healthy relationship to change
A respect for reality
“Work hard, play hard, leave it better than ya found it!” is our second special guest’s motto. While Lauren Burgess - a.k.a. @adventurenewbie - is most at home outdoors exploring the mountains, she’s had a longtime love affair with the written word and a deep desire to make the world a better place. Together with her husband, Lauren founded Headwall Digital where her writing gives authentic and powerful voice to businesses, nonprofits and entrepreneurs. We had the good fortune of spending time in nature with Lauren, and talking with her in front of the fire. Before leading us on an epic hike to Albino Lake, she explained the seven Leave No Trace Principles for hiking and experiencing nature. For those of you who weren't able to join us this year, here’s what Lauren shared:
Plan ahead and prepare.
Travel and camp on durable surfaces.
Dispose of waste properly.
Leave what you find.
Minimize campfire impacts.
Be considerate of other visitors.
These are just a few of the amazing “nuggets” from our campfire conversations that shifted our collective perspective - keep an eye out here and on my social media feeds for more to come from these amazing women and our other special guests and workshop leaders!
I took my own advice a couple weeks ago and drove north to visit a friend on her ranch in central Montana. As I drove and the highway shifted from pavement to gravel - yes, there still are dirt highways in the lower 48 - I slowed way down and was struck by the vast beauty of the state I now call home. I feel fortunate that I had the opportunity to share a tiny piece of this place with the Daring Darlings and hope that our paths cross again soon. I am grateful for the way every Darling showed up for herself and for each other. I encourage you all to continue to find ways to be in nature wherever you are, to pause and reconnect with your authentic, beautiful selves. Find ways to detour - grab your mothers, sisters, daughters and girlfriends and take them with you. I’ll see you out there!